Dr Ann-Marie Golden, an experienced health psychologist, cognitive scientist, therapist and mindfulness facilitator suggests a range of options for newcomers to mindfulness. It takes time and practice, and can be frustrating at first, but as you practice it becomes easier and just taking ten minutes out of your day to calm your mind can bring relief.
Before you get started, take a moment to read Dr Golden’s feature to find out a little more about mindfulness.
Mindfulness and moment-to-moment awareness meditation
Set aside a regular time of the day, preferably in the same place. Sit comfortably upright and close your eyes with the intention of having an alert mind. The aim of such practice is to shift from thinking to sensing, so you will notice endless cycles of thinking, and when noticing it, acknowledge it for what it is and then kindly shift your attention to the breath, body, sensation or whatever you have decided your anchor of awareness (below) to be.
- Physical: notice any physical sensations in your body; if you feel discomfort, go to that location and be curious about what it feels like – describe it to yourself and notice that if you stay with it for a few seconds it may subtly change.
- Breathe: focus your attention on your breathing, your inhale and your exhale, and notice where it feels strongest – is it the tip of your nose, back of your throat, in your chest or your stomach? Count your breaths in and out, as far as five or ten, then start again.
- Sounds: consider sounds in the environment around you: whether they are close or far away, which ones you like more than others. Be curious about their properties like pitch and rhythm.
- Emotions: shift your attention to your current feelings/emotions; ask yourself “How do I feel right now, in this moment?” and name your feelings.
- Movement: walk mindfully and slowly, perhaps taking a few paces forwards and a few back, noticing your weight on your feet or stretching and focussing on which muscles are being used and how they feel before and after each stretch.
- Music: pick a song, any genre, and pay full attention to the sound of the music: how it changes, its beat, rhythm and tone, and how the lyrics can have an effect in that moment.
- Writing: write a stream of consciousness, perhaps by hand – you may be surprised by the outcome.
Practice a pause. All you need to do it stop and notice what is going on in this moment with a friendly curiosity as to what is here, just for a few seconds or minutes. You might do this during a routine activity such as eating a meal, waiting in a shop queue, while the kettle is boiling or while brushing your teeth. As yourself “What is going on for me at the moment?” or “What am I noticing right now?”.
Remember, it’s about noticing, not analysing or trying to change anything you don’t like.
This practice is about seeing things with fresh eyes and not allowing what we ‘know’ stop us from seeing things as they really are. We tend to take the ordinary for granted, but with practice we can develop ‘beginner’s mind’ and experience the richness of the present moment. For example, next time you sit down to a familiar meal try to imagine it is the first time you are experiencing it. Consider the texture and tastes as though you have never had them before and appreciate the extraordinary in the everyday.
Each of us has an inner critic that can be rather daunting, telling us we are not good enough or that we are flawed or weak. Consider these phrases and the language you use – if you would not say them to a loved one then intentionally change some of the phrases towards yourself. Ask yourself “What would a kind friend say to me now?” and rebuild your inner critic with those words, instead.
Self-compassion is important for all of these practices as they won’t come easy at first. It may even seem impossible, but with practice you’ll make progress.